As I was going to pick up my daughter from school the other day, I was searching through radio stations to find a song that I wanted to listen to. I happened upon a quite humorous country song called I Wanna Talk About Me by Toby Keith. As I was driving along cracking up at the lyrics, the grain of truth regarding how we all need to talk about ourselves at least sometimes, really struck me.
Follow this link to hear the song and see the lyrics: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OS_2RRQZodw
As silly as this song is, it got me thinking about how the parents of kids in treatment almost never talk about themselves, and if they do, it is still in the context of their child. And yes, I know that Toby isn’t singing about parents in this song, and yet we all need to do just what he is singing about. We need to talk about what we think, what we like, what we know, what we want, what we see, and more. (Ok, yes I borrowed a lot of that sentence from the song lyrics.)
In all seriousness, it has been said many times in many ways, that ‘the best thing we can do for our children is to focus on ourselves’. But how can we do that if we don’t TALK ABOUT US? As counter-intuitive as it may seem, we all should be singing along with Toby — I Wanna Talk About MEE-HEE-EEE!
When our child is in treatment there is so much we parents need to talk about regarding our own journey, but we often put ourselves and our needs at the bottom of the list. So now I invite you to follow Toby’s lead, and go ahead and do just that. There are friends, clergy, therapist and coaches, support groups, and family who all would be happy listen to you TALK ABOUT YOU! I urge you to find that right person, and start TALKING!
It is definitely not selfish to do so, even though it may seem that way at first, and it is by no means silly like this song makes it seem! The more we ‘talk about us’, what we think, what we like, what we know, what we want, what we see, the better we will become to then in turn help others. Everybody wins.
Thank you, Toby Keith, for the inspiration!