One who gains strength by overcoming obstacles possesses the only strength which can overcome adversity. – Albert Schweitzer
They say that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. Do you believe that?
I certainly do. I have heard many a parent of a struggling child, once most of the crisis has passed, say that they, their child, and their entire family are all stronger and happier due to the experience. And because of this I urge you go through the experience to its fullest, and don’t try to go around it.
If this sounds incredibly ridiculous, very annoying, or even impossible – just hold on. I understand how you might think this is really a stupid idea. Just hold on, and go through it, and not around it. You’ll see.
What exactly do I mean by ‘go through it’? I mean engage deeply, cry, laugh, seek to understand, talk, grieve, go to therapy, hire a coach, read everything, focus on personal growth, get the right support team, share, learn what ‘letting go’ means, and help others. On the contrary, don’t be in denial, numb your pain, or otherwise check out of the process.
The ‘all in’ attitude is what enables those parents who emerge stronger than ever to do so. They are able to use the experience as a catalyst to think, feel, and act different and hence not only is their child better off, but they are too!
“However mean your life is, meet it and live it.” ― Henry David Thoreau
Does this make sense to you? If it doesn’t, if you think I am nuts – I want to know that. On the flip side, if you have truly come through what you once thought was an impossible situation and are now stronger for it, please comment below also. I want to hear it all!
Leslie Ferris is a Certified and Credentialed Life Coach
Serving the parents of struggling tweens, teens, and young adults
Contact her today for your 1/2 complimentary discussion to explore what life coaching can do for you.
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