“Nothing comes unannounced, but many can miss the announcement. So it’s very important to actually listen to your own intuition rather than driving through it.” – Terence McKenna
And so it goes with us parents of struggling kids. At some gut level, we know (or have known) that there is something wrong. But our heads can get in the way of our gut, and talk ourselves out of what we deeply know. It can go something like this:
Your son comes home from an evening out. He stumbles a little and heads straight for his room, shuts the door, and goes right to sleep. Your gut tells you to investigate further. Your head says, ‘He’s had a long week and he’s probably just really tired’, so you just let it pass. Your head just talked you out of what your gut told you to do.
Your 7th grade daughter has gone from loving and outgoing, to dark, solitary, and secretive. You tell yourself, ’7th grade is hard and this is probably just a normal stage’, while your gut is alarmed that this could be serious.
“What good is intuition if your heart gets in the way of hearing it?” – Shannon L. Alder
The bottom line is that our gut, our intuition, doesn’t lie but our heads can make up stories and justifications like crazy to counter what our gut tells us. I have learned that our gut is pretty darn smart, and we should listen a whole lot more to it.
How then, can we get out of our heads enough to listen to our intuition? That would be different for everyone, but here are 3 simple suggestions:
- Know that your intuition is there for a reason, and that its value is immeasurable. Learn to understand it and trust it. It is one of the biggest assets you have.
- Clear you mind enough so that you can listen to your gut. Paul Burnon states is eloquently here. “This withdrawal from the day’s turmoil into creative silence is not a luxury, a fad, or a futility. It is a necessity, because it tries to provide the conditions wherein we are able to yield ourselves to intuitive leadings, promptings, warnings, teachings, and counsels and also to the inspiring peace of the soul. It dissolves mental tensions and heals negative emotions.” ― Paul Brunton, The Notebooks of Paul Brunton
- Come right out and ask yourself, ‘Is my head overriding my gut right now?”. Be aware, think about it. Question yourself! You might be surprised about what you find out!
When have you used your intuition? And how did it work for you? Please share in the comments below.
Leslie Ferris is a Certified and Credentialed Life Coach
Serving the parents of struggling tweens, teens, and young adults
Contact her today for your 1/2 complimentary discussion to explore what life coaching can do for you.
Connect with her via her website at http://www.phase2foryou.com