For parents of kids in #treatment, the #stress is high, the #worry is intense. Have you ever stopped to examine exactly what it is you are worrying about? Is it real?
Many of us, especially in troubled times, can really get ourselves into a major worry cycle. And for those of us who are really good worriers, or who have active imaginations, this worry can take on a life all its own.
We can dream up, worry about, and create potential outcomes in our heads that are most likely never going to make it into reality. And as Mark Twain suggests in his famous quote, we then ‘go through some terrible things’ in our minds that actually never happen. Wouldn’t it be nice if we never had to go through those ‘bad things’ that aren’t real?
A therapist might call it #catastophizing, and I call it ‘The Curse of the What If’. Those potentially disastrous dramas that play out in our minds that usually have bad endings, and that make our state of mind worse, but never come to fruition.
It might be an interesting exercise to ‘check out’ what we are worrying about when it starts to happen. We might ask ourselves, ‘How likely is what I am worrying about going to play out in reality, and is it really worth my time worrying about it?’. And then, ‘What is a better use of my brain power?’.
And as we all know, worry and catastrophizing generate tons of possibly unnecessary stress, and we don’t have to look far to see what stress can do. It can bog us down, make us sick, and it takes up room in our brains that would otherwise be filled with better stuff!
So I urge you to pay attention to what you are worrying about. Is it real?
Leslie Ferris is a Certified and Credentialed Life Coach
Serving the parents of kids in treatment
Connect with her via her website at http://www.phase2foryou.com